Because two of my best friends are getting married I have decided to post a marriage quote today.
I am so happy for my friends that they have found people they want to share everything with for the rest of their lives.
Personally, it sounds tiring, so i'm glad someone else is doing it instead of me!
I have spent a lot of time with one of my friends (I can't say her name because the engagement is not public yet) and her fiance and they seem like one of the best couples I've met.
The best part about them is you can just see that they love each other so much, it's practically leaking from their pores.
It's so excellent.
I am so glad they found each other and didn't fall into a meaningless/loveless marriage with someone besides each other.
Congrats to my two best friends that I love so dearly.
I hope you are the happiest you have ever been!
Now here is my quote that I believe in 100%.
Living in Utah, I see so many people just floating into pointless marriages that they are using as an escape.
I see my friends get married and three months later they have gained weight and broke out in acne and look terribly depressed.
If or when I get married, I want my husband to be my best friend.
I want to feel like I have known him my whole life.
I want him to be able to listen to me and talk with me when things are hard and when i'm hurt.
But then he will know when i'm done being sad and make me laugh.
So here's the quote:
"I don't want to be married just to be married.
I can't think of anything lonelier than spending the rest of my life
So my quote for today isn't inspirational or profound, it's just beautiful and perfect.
It is from Portia De Rossi's book Unbearable Lightness: A Story of Loss and Gain
The quote is her talking about the night she met Ellen in 2001 at a concert.
This is how I want to feel about the person I marry.
"I remember what we talked about and a joke she made as we were looking down at the mosh pit. I embarrassed myself by laughing too much and too loudly at that joke, but I simply couldn't stop. I thought she was the most amazing person I'd ever met. She was highly intelligent, sharply observant, and funny. She was so beautiful it seemed that light emanated from her bright blue eyes. I had the best night of my life. I felt good about myself around her. I was excited and yet comfortable."
I decided to do a quote from the Scriptures since it is Sunday.
I chose the scripture I did because it is somewhat the reason I don't go to church anymore.
Not the scripture itself but the people it's talking about are the reason I don't go.
I believe the people it's talking about are most often in leadership positions, and leadership positions in the church have now become such an idolatrous symbol to the members.
It just makes me so sad to see the loss of love and the swelling of pride that is taking place in the church that is supposed to be Jesus Christ's church.
Sins and trials are what perfect us in the end, yet everyone covers them up with shame and a smile.
Everyone thinks in order to be perfect we need to force ourselves and pretend we are.
But obviously, that act is completely damning and spirit losing.
If we just accept ourselves for who we are and love ourselves completely, sins and imperfections included, then we will be able to move past them more easily and honestly onto becoming happier and more able to have the presence of the spirit.
"But when we undertake to cover our sins, or to gratify our pride, our vain ambition, or to exercise control or dominion or compulsion upon the souls of the children of men, in any degree of unrighteousness, behold, the heavens withdraw themselves; the spirit of the Lord is grieved;and when it is withdraw, Amen to the priesthood or the authority of that man."
The quote for today is by an awesome author and monk, Thich Nhat Hanh.
He wrote the book You Are Here which is really amazing.
I warn you, I will probably do a lot of quotes by him.
“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That's the message he is sending.”
Because I grew up in Provo Utah being the daughter of a bishop/stake president and was forced to attend young woman's every week, naturally I was taught to only live for men.
I remember things like "keep yourself chaste so that you will be clean. Worthy young men don't like girls who are 'used' and unclean."
Or "read your scriptures every night so that you will be spiritually prepared to meet a worthy young man and get married."
I found a flaw in these teachings: no matter what you do, you will never please anyone else 100% of the time, but you can please yourself 100% of the time.
I have looked around and realized that my community is not the only one who believes this, not at all.
Basically all of the world's woman are under the impression we are here for men.
I think it is great and awesome to want to look pretty, shave your legs, smell good etc. I just believe that we are so much better than to just live for men and not ourselves.
Comedy is a big place I believe there is a struggle with this problem.
All the girls are afraid of not looking "pretty" so there are hardly any good woman comedians out there.
I very much respect Emma Stone (of course) for being able to be herself, make weird faces and not be concerned about if she still looks pretty.
Even though she still always looks stunning.
There is also the AMAZING snl ladies: Amy Poehler, Kristen Wiig, and Tina Fey.
(Even though Amy Poehler is divorcing the most amazing man in the world, I still love her)
Tina Fey's book is really awesome by the way, you should check it out.
What is sad to me is Zooey Deschanel.
I know eeeeeveryone loves New Girl, but I just struggled with it.
She just takes the looking stupidly-cute approach to "being funny".
I respect her and the work she has done, I just think there is so much more potential.
I just have so much more respect for the wonderful ladies above who push the boundaries and stand up for woman!
So I what got me in the mood to make this post is the video below.
It made me so happy that these ladies (who are super beautiful) weren't afraid to make crazy faces and not always look completely straight faced-pretty.
